Spending your Life

When I said I wanted to spend the rest of my life with Dustin Weible sixteen years ago, I didn’t realize that that is exactly what it would mean.

We often think of the romantic dates, and the butterflies in our stomachs that the other person gives to us, to be the indicator of true happiness, but the reality is, spending your life for, or on someone is costly.

Paul said it like this;

5 And I will very gladly spend and be spent for you; though the more abundantly I love you, the less I be loved. 2 Corinthians 12:15

But I wonder how many of us apply that scripture to our marriages as much as wives saying,

“The husband is supposed to give of  himself,”

and the husband saying,

“Oh yeah, and you’re supposed to respect me as your spiritual leader.”

I believe God meant for both,  as we realize, that our lives aren’t just meant to be stuck together for this life, but to be spent together.

Dust and I attended a marriage conference several years ago with Dave and Nicole Crank as the speakers.

What a blessing.

They shared on the importance of making deposits into your marital account.

When one spends too much at the expense of the other, usually tempers flare and the threat of bankruptcy of the marriage begins to hover.

But in the beginning, if you remember,

it was all deposits.

We put our best foot forward and spend as much as we can on each other.

Times fades, and we make more withdraws than deposits.

But the same way you resurrect a physical monetary account is the same way with a marriage.

Bankruptcy affects both of you…

So, if Paul said to spend our lives on each other, than we have to sometimes make a deposit whether the other is or not.

That’s  what keeps us in the positive.

But our God, faithful as He is, never asks you to make a deposit that He isn’t willing to back.

If He started the work in your marriage, He will also Fund it, if we will listen.

Love doesn’t seek it’s own way, and sometimes I forget that.

Actually, a lot, I forget that.

But coming across this scripture, helped me to realize that whatever the cost, I promised to spend the rest of my life with my man.

You may be almost depleted in your marriage account today, but I encourage You, 

to make a deposit.

Tell your spouse something your Thankful for.

Make them a nice dinner.

Just like the widow woman who had very little, if you do what God prompts you to do, you can live off the rest!!!



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